A Few Encouraging Words

Living life is hard but having someone to share it with is an amazing gift. One of my favorite things about having a significant other is being able to help support him. Support can mean many things, but today I am going to discuss some of more personal ways you can help support your significant other.

Many times life feels like an overwhelming barrage of difficult choices and draining people. It is my belief that our life partners, if present, should be a source of light, life, and recharging. Now, this is not to say there are not bad days all around, but as a whole, our significant other should not be a drain on us and we should not be a drain on them. To this end, I believe in giving to life what you'd like to get out of it, so here goes my ideas on various ways to encourage your special someone.

Positive Affirmations are a great way to encourage those special people in your life. Try to find one to three affirmations to contribute to your relationship each day. For example: "I believe you can overcome any challenge today." or "You take the best care of me, no one can do better." As always be honest with your affirmations!

The next way you can do daily encouragement is to be thankful and show appreciation. Never take for granted what your partner does for you. Little things like doing the dishes, handing you that wrench, opening your door, carrying your bag, etc. are ultimately the bones of life. If you put extra effort into saying thank you for these seemingly simple things I guarantee your whole life will become more joyful and you will notice a shift in your partner's mood.

Respond to everything, even fights, from a place of love and the desire to work together. It is more than possible to encourage your significant other even during an argument. Perhaps you don’t see eye to eye on something, this is normal and need not be a cause for concern if every time a fight occurs you remember to always fight fair, remember that ultimately you are your partners back up, you are on their side even if you have to argue out the details. Never resort to low blows or threats. The effect of approaching arguments in this manner will have a profound effect on your partner. Even during a fight, they will feel safe trusting in you and that is a big encouragement.

Do something small for no reason other than to make the other person happy. Maybe you send them a sweet note, maybe buy them lunch, or maybe even you sneak an extra kiss or two in. It doesn’t have to be something big. These small actions will make them feel loved and encourage their spirit.

Of course, there are many, many more ways to encourage someone, but the above are some of my favorite ways. Drop your favorite encouragements in the comments section.