With the current, pandemic of insanity & Covid 19 going on in the world I have noticed a phenomenon both interesting and sad. Post after post on my social media and even new meme’s have arisen disparaging relationships, partners & especially marriages.
So why are so many people with those they can’t stand, don’t like, and wish they were not with? Like seriously why?!
Listen guys, I know that no one like to be alone but, this is ridiculous.
First off, you deserve better! You deserve someone who thinks the world of you. You deserve someone who always wants you. You deserve someone who will put your happiness first, just as you should put theirs first.
Second, was your marriage/relationship against your will? (If so, please get out and contact me, I'll send legal help!) But, if you chose your relationship then perhaps you should slap yourself into remembering why you first chose that person you are talking shit about, or if you really hate them then move on. News flash, to the rest of the world you look like an idiot complaining about that man/woman you chose to get into a relationship or marriage with. Honestly though, every time I see a, "He or she is tired of me." "He or she is just so annoying." I want to comment, "Grow up. Leave if you don't like it. Better yet have an adult discussion. Oh, and get your shit talking off social media. You both deserve better."
Third point, before you get into a relationship of any kind make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. AKA: Love, respect and an equal desire to take care of each other. If you believe you did choose your relationship for the right reasons but are still having issues with complaining about your significant other than perhaps you should reflect about why you choose them, and if they were always how they are now. Communicate honestly with your partner instead of talking shit about them. Respect will then have a chance to grow both between you two and in everyone else eyes.
Last point, regrets suck. Regrets have no place in love (or life really). As much as possible, be brutally honest with yourself. Everyone has flaws. Admit your own, look at your significant others and decide if those flaws are something you can live with. You should know exactly what you are signing up for before you even start the relationship and most certainly before you marry someone. If you can't live with someones flaws, be kind and move on. DO NOT try to change someone to fit your ideals as this creates resentment. If you do choose to live with, your partners annoying habit of leaving their messes around the house for example, then realize you choose them regardless of this flaw and DO NOT disparage them about it later in the relationship.
Keep your shit talk off social media, all it does is ruin your relationship and make you look like an immature ass.
Know your own value, find someone who recognizes that you are priceless, and find someone who you value just as much.
Be honest and pick someone with flaws you can live with forever.
Only get into a relationship for the right reasons. Not because you're lonely or insecure.
Don't stay in a regretful relationship. Don't complain about it if you choose to stay.
Live and love with no regrets!
I'm a woman who sees the world a bit differently. I've studied relationships, both through those around me, my own experiences & through traditional education on how human psychology affects our interpersonal connections for over ten years. This is my story, my advice, and my not so humble opinions.