The America we live in today is an amazing one, filled with innovation, opportunity, and freedom. Over the past five years, I have noticed strong women taking action! We are in the media, the corporate workplace, we women are taking up the reins and becoming successful powerful individuals! No man can tell us how to live our lives or what we can and can't do! Kinda like it has been for decades now...
Feminism has devolved into women believing we have the right to insist we do absolutely everything just like a man and also like a woman, and then insisting that men have "toxic masculinity" if things don't go our way, they disagree, or they get something we don't. This spans everything from doing jobs commonly held by men to insisting we get paid and treated the same in the workplace, to interpersonal daily interactions. Of course, the real truth is not only do we women want to be treated like "one of the boys" we also demand to be treated with respect and dignity regardless of our actions because we are WOMEN! What the theory of feminism has devolved into is a nasty, frankly disgusting, woman aggressive culture fuck. And speaking as a 27-year-old entrepreneurial woman, I get to say that. In a world overrun by this type of feminists, all I can say to my gender (or those who identify as such) is... what the actual hell is wrong with you?
1.) Don’t expect to be treated like a lady when you’re trying to be “one of the boys”.
First of all offended sweet pea, you are not a man. I repeat YOU ARE NOT A MAN! You are a gorgeous force of nature known as a WOMAN! Now don’t get me wrong, I believe a woman can do many traditionally masculine jobs just as good as a man can. I believe any of us regardless of gender can do almost anything we put our minds too. The real question is, should we? And if we do, are we willing to take the bad with the good?
You want to do that male-dominated job/activity, and want to get paid the same to do it? You better be willing to tolerate every last bit of bullshit your male counterparts have to. You should not expect special treatment. That is true gender equality.
2.) Don’t act like a bitch and expect to be treated like a lady.
Girls, do not pretend like it is okay for you to strike/touch or scream at a man because you are female and he’s just supposed to take it. Men deserve the same respect you expect from them!
You don’t want a man to strike you? You had better not strike him! If he hasn’t struck you then there is absolutely nothing he has done that gives you the right to hit him. Nothing. It is wrong of you as an adult and a woman, to resort to violence and expect him not to return in kind. Equality should be across the board, right?
You don’t want to be groped and fondled without permission? Better keep your hands to yourself and ask first! Not all men want your manicured nails scraping across their pectorals (or anywhere else) without permission.
Want to be talked to respectfully? Lead by example and talk to him respectfully.
3.) Ask for equal if you must, but not better than.
I’m all for equality of genders in the sense that I believe women and men should have the same inherent rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of personal happiness.
I do believe in equal though. Equal means that if the man has a different opinion than yours, he is entitled to it! He is also entitled to the same respect you want to receive. Equal means that in both the work and domestic setting you share the load and problem-solving. It should never ever become, “He needs to do it my way or he’s wrong!”
That leads us to point number four...
4.) Never belittle him
Picture for a moment a husband coming home to his wife and saying, “Why didn’t you cook dinner the way I told you too? And you better not back talk me or your sleeping on the couch.”
Might piss you ladies off just a little hu?
Why the hell y’all do that to the men then? So what he didn’t fix the broken door the way or at the speed you wanted. Be kind with your words, maybe offer to help without being passive-aggressive. So what he started an argument with you. Argue back. Argue from a place of love and being on the same team. The solution team.
Even in the work setting, don’t rag on the men. Maybe he isn’t as good as you want. Give him those chances, explain it kindly do not tear at him.
I’m all for women's empowerment. I’m also for male empowerment. Each of us have a special spark to add to the world and each of us should have the unimpeded opportunity to express ourselves. Put simply, if you actually stand for equality, do unto others what you would want them to do to you.
I'm a woman who sees the world a bit differently. I've studied relationships, both through those around me, my own experiences & through traditional education on how human psychology affects our interpersonal connections for over ten years. This is my story, my advice, and my not so humble opinions.