Ever want a few tips for better sex? Yeah, I thought so! Who doesn't want better sex after all? While these seven tips are directed toward the ladies, guys are welcome to read along as well!
1.) Consumed in the Moment
While it's true, sex can be fun even when distracted, there is nothing quite like being completely consumed in the moment when things get hot! If you want great, steamy sex that is unforgettable set aside all distractions. This includes all those pesky stress thoughts. Set them aside, after all, you don't need to solve your life’s problems while engaging in coitus. Instead focus on sensation, taste, smells, etc.
Along with setting aside distractions and stress, to truly enjoy intimate moments remember to release your anxiety and self-conscience thoughts.
For the anxiety breathe and let yourself enjoy your partner. It also doesn’t hurt to let your partner know if you are feeling really anxious. Always keep sexual communication open and honest.
As for being self-conscience, remember that your partner is already having sex with you. You may not be perfect, but they obviously already find you desirable! Also, who has time to notice your imperfections when your busy moaning with pleasure?
2.) Turn it Up
Although being in the moment is most certainly the path to great sex, there is something to be said for making mundane moments and tasks into something more... frisky. For example, ever just decide a show your SO is watching isn't that exciting? A little leg rub, ear nibble and perhaps a more straight forward touching through his (or her) pants is sure to catch your SO’s attention in a fun way!
Look for these opportunities to make random hot moments, not only is it fun it also makes your person feel incredibly desired!
3.) Try it
I am admittedly a bit of a freak in the sheets. Nothing too extreme but certainly not vanilla either. That being said, experimenting with positions, new ways of having sex and even locations can be incredibly hot! The key to experimenting is to keep an open line of communication with your partner. Most likely they won't mind trying some things either. Just be sure to be safe, legal and respect each other's boundaries.
4.) Sweet Surprises
Always read the room. Men are usually more down for surprise sex but not always. That being said, surprise sex can be extremely thrilling!
Being dressed in something (or nothing) flirtatious or flat sexy when your SO arrives is one of the most fun ways to initiate surprise sex.
Another fun tactic for surprise sex goes hand in hand with tip two, then looking at your lover at any random moment, making eye contact and flat out telling them, ”I need you right now.” or something that equally expresses your desire.
5.) Build the tension
Flirt, flirt, flirt! And maybe blurt.
You want hot as hell sex? Build up to it. And I mean really build up!
I'm not the best at flirting, but I am lucky enough to have an incredible man to practice on, and practice I do. Some of our best sex has been after being apart for a week and focusing on flirting the whole time. I've even managed to build tension for further sessions while in the middle of having sex. Soft touches, gentle hints, suggestive comments, photos, and then a few flat out direct sex comments or acts make for great tension builders!
6.) Own Yourself
Flaunt what you've got. Keep it classy. Even if you're new to sex or flirting, practice what you learn and use that beautiful body to tease and tantalize! You are fucking amazing! Dress for yourself, dress for your partner. Dance for him or her, dance for yourself! Enjoy yourself! Putting yourself first in a classy way can have a profound effect on sex. So be confident and have fun!
7.) Accept the Quirks
Sex is quirky. It's hot, passionate, sweet, soft, rough, vanilla, kinky, gross and beautiful. Don't stress the strange things that happen. Just go with the flow and keep it light-hearted.
Sometimes it's Hollywood perfect sex and sometimes it's just a hot mess, regardless of what happens, remember you can always try again! Use the weird sex to build tension for the better hot sex!
I'm a woman who sees the world a bit differently. I've studied relationships, both through those around me, my own experiences & through traditional education on how human psychology affects our interpersonal connections for over ten years. This is my story, my advice, and my not so humble opinions.