This one is for the ladies. Over the past few weeks, I have been trying to find a good fit to take boudoir photos of me. I want this type of photography because 1.) I’m gorgeous! 2.) I want to give these photos as gifts to my SO. Shhhhh! He doesn’t know!
During my search for the perfect photographer, I have run into an interesting phenomenon. As I said before, I believe I’m gorgeous. What is more, my significant other believes I am gorgeous. My personal choice is not to wear makeup, or when I do very, very little. The way I see it, if my lover is used to seeing me without it, I want my intimate pictures to be without makeup otherwise it’s just, well... fake.
Three separate studios have told me, “We highly recommend fake lashes and makeup.” Regardless of my requests to take pictures without such things, each time I’ve been argued with. What is the deal with our society that we are afraid of being ourselves? Not only that but others tell us to become something we are not.
So just how do you remain yourself in a world out to make you like everyone else? Here are three tips to help with just that.
Remember you are your greatest ally!
Remember that you are a beautiful kick-ass woman! No one except you knows exactly how awesome you are. If someone tells you, you need to look or act a certain way, and you don’t want it. Ignore them.
Don’t accept shit.
Don’t let anyone tell you how or who you should be. Build yourself up and ignore the haters.
Build up others!
The truest way to find and keep yourself is to help others find themselves. Always allow others to be who they are. Help them know it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to be special. It’s okay to let your natural beauty and attitude shine!
I'm a woman who sees the world a bit differently. I've studied relationships, both through those around me, my own experiences & through traditional education on how human psychology affects our interpersonal connections for over ten years. This is my story, my advice, and my not so humble opinions.